Five Things I learned about taking your children snow skiing for the first time…

(1) Your first glimpse of the mountains will be more exciting than the last time you saw them (because this time you are going to ski down one!

(2) The closer you get, the more amazing the mountains will be. (Side note: people who get carsick should sit where they can see out the front window the best – in the front if you are an adult or in the middle of the back if you are in a carseat.)

(3) You will all look like cute little bundles of winter clothes – ask a nice stranger to take your picture.

(4) Remind your husband to take some pictures; he is actually much better at photography than you are.

(4b) There is nothing cuter than your honey and your littlest riding up the lift together.

(5) Put your children in ski school. They will be able to do this after a day (and a half):

How To Find A Lost Pet

During our trip to the Rocky Mountains over New Year’s, our sweet dog Lola ran away from her pet sitters. It was an experience I am not eager to ever repeat (nor are our friends, the sitters, who may have been even more sick and worried than we were).

Lola with the boys on the first night after we adopted her from the shelter.

If you have lost your pet and are looking for ways to help reunite, I have compiled a list of useful tips, ideas and actions you can take to help find your missing family member. I received a great deal of support when Lola was missing; most of these ideas came from people who helped us.

Lola was four when she came to live with us, and Shooter was seven.

* Create a flyer with your pet’s information on it. Have a clear photo, LOST in bold letters, along with a short description of your pet, microchip information, area last seen, and how to contact you. My dear friend did this for me, and after having hundreds of them made she realized she wanted to include more contact information. So she wrote additional numbers on every single copy. That, I tell you, is a VERY GOOD FREIND (with a very sore hand).

From the very beginning, Lola fit right in with these rough-and-tumble farm kids.

* Notify all area shelters, the animal control, veterinarians, police and fire stations. Hand-delivering flyers is the best way to be sure your pet is reported missing, that these facilities have the correct contact information, and that they will be able to recognize your pet when he/she is found.

Her nighttime routine involves waiting patiently for Farmer Boy to fall asleep. Then she will move to a more comfortable spot at the foot of his bed.

She has been a nighttime caretaker for any child who is sick or scared. Waking from fever or bad dreams always led to a quiet, furry friend appearing beside Mommy to see what was wrong.

* Canvas the area your pet was last seen. Post your flyer anywhere you can. Give copies of your flyer to people in the area. Everyone was very helpful and willing to listen when we were looking for Lola. In fact, a jogger in the area was the person who connected us with the woman who found our dog.

Sometimes I forget how little the children were when she came to be a part of our family…

* Utilize social media in any way that you can. I posted a photo and information about my dog on Facebook. Many of my friends shared the status update and soon Lola was making her way around the internet. I also found a great deal of emotional support and many new ideas for finding our dog from contacts on Facebook once they saw the update.

My Little Cowgirl doesn’t even remember a time before Lola.

* Keep going back to the last place your pet was seen. Eventually, that is where Lola was found. If your dog has a bed or blanket, leave it in the area with a laminated flyer attached to it. If you don’t have any bedding, leave an old shirt or other piece of clothing that you have worn so that it carries your scent. If your pet finds the item, it is likely that your pet will keep coming back to it.

Farmer Boy is visibly upset when we even mention that she isn’t as young as she used to be.

* Sign up with pet finding networks. Lola appeared on PetHarbor, Lost a Dog, Stray Pet Alert, and a Facebook page dedicated to missing pets in Colorado. These services provided some piece of mind for me, and they reduced a great deal of leg work someone would have spent delivering flyers to places that could receive all the same information in electronic form.

She loves being outside as much as the children do.

* Place an advertisement in local newspapers. Several papers in the area we were vacationing printed lost pet ads free-of-charge.

Lola loves a good hike, a new adventure.

* Don’t give up hope. I gave up hope every time we failed to find her in another search location. Each new place we searched left me feeling completely desolate when we turned up empty-handed. Each time we began again in a new area, I was certain we would find her. It was a ridiculous emotional roller coaster. But I kept hearing stories of pets that were found days, weeks, even months after they had gone missing.

Lola is always a willing participant in the life of our family.

* Keep perspective. As much as I love my dog, and as heartbroken as we all would have been if we hadn’t found her, she is still a dog and not a person. I wasn’t missing one of my children. I cannot count how many times My Farmer and I said to each other “imagine if this were our child…how do parents survive when their child is missing?”

As hard as it was to face the idea of never seeing her again, it was much harder to face the idea of breaking that news to my children.

* Lean on others. We were fortunate to have My Farmer’s brother and his family with us. They went far above the call of duty to keep our children happy, distracted and safe while we searched for Lola. My sister trolled the web and made phone calls from hundreds of miles away. Some of my closest girlfriends tore up the internet finding and signing Lola up on the lost pet sites. Our friends who were pet sitting when Lola ran away probably got less sleep then the dog did during the three nights she was gone; they spent every possible second looking for her. And My Farmer and I also had each other. In crisis, I am always reminded what a great team we are, and how very blessed I am that God made us for each other.

Furry family members give us so much love.

I hope you have a happy ending like we did; don’t give up!

We are so grateful to have her back with us, and for all she has contributed to our family in the past five years.

A new friend on Facebook (who sent us loads of great advice and encouragement after seeing out story on a mutual friend’s page) also shared an idea she puts into practice since going through losing her own dog on vacation (who was found after nine days!). Keep a “lost pet” kit in your vehicle with an extra collar and leash, some treats, and the phone number and hours of your local shelter. You can be the hero to a family waiting, hoping and praying to find their missing friend!

Everything is back to normal around here now, thank you everyone for all your help, advice, thoughts and prayers.


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Things I learned on our most recent Road Trip with Kids

(1) Do not leave for a trip the morning after a Red-Neck New-Years 40th-Birthday Party when you were not the DD.

Yes, that is me singing karaoke wearing a bra that shows under my tank, feather earrings, a hunter’s hat and a (fake) tattoo. Also not pictured are the cammo army pants, belt with my name on the back, and shotgun. All redneck party items came from my own closet, thank you.

(2) Even if you have been identifying with the Libertarian Party and their principles, sometimes the 1980s reruns of “The Dukes of Hazard” are more intense than you bargained for, but they can sure help pass a 500-mile drive.

Oh NO! Will they get away from Boss Hog’s evil plan?!

(3) If there is an American Girl Doll store where you are going, and your daughter has an American Girl Doll, you should take her there despite your feelings about the expensive items. It will be fun and there will be a doll she will want her picture with.

A skiing American Girl Doll! Little Cowgirl used some Christmas money to buy her own doll a pair of pink eye glasses. No, I don’t know why aside from the fact that they may have been the only thing she could afford in the store besides a pair of doll panties.

(4) Do not brag about your dog to the people who have offered to watch her. Do not talk about her subservient nature and obedience training. She will run away and make you look like a complete ass hat.

(5) When your dog disappears in a large, strange, metropolitan area do everything you can to find her. Support your friends who she ran away from who are doing everything they can to find her. Sign up with lost pet sites, notify all the authorities and shelters, notify your veterinarian and microchip provider. When the flyers your friend napalmed the area with find your dog, take them champaign.

It will be worth all the effort in the end.

I am working on a post as a resource for owners who have lost a pet. I was fortunate to have so much help, and I’d like to pay it forward.

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Conversation with a seven-year-old

My daughter was over at a friend’s house.

She mentioned casually to the mother “Do you know my friend Jackson?”

Friend’s mother “Yes.”

Seven-year-old, “Well, when I grow up, I’m going to marry him.”

Friend’s mother (surprised), “Oh! I see…”

Seven-year-old, “I haven’t seen him in a while, so I can’t really remember what he looks like.”

My apologies…

I realize I have been neglecting this space, and as such, neglecting you as well, dear reader.

We have been plagued this last six weeks with various illnesses (bronchitis for me, strep and regular old colds for the rest) that always come with autumn allergies and the evil sugar season (Halloween through New Years!).

But the real reason I’ve been posting less is because I’ve been cheating on this blog – my online time has been dedicated to instagram a little, but mostly to Pinterest. Have you discovered Pinterest?

It. Is. Killing. Me.

It is similar to falling in love. Like when I met My Farmer. I just cannot get enough. Every time we are together, I am completely unaware of time or space, so intensely am I focused on the present moment. When we are apart, I am thinking about the next time we can be together, and as much as possible of what I’m doing is focused on this relationship. I can’t sleep for thinking about it. When I wake up, it’s the first thing on my mind.

Here are the things I’ve been doing in real life, all of which came directly from my sordid affair with Pinterest:

I made a chocolate cake in which the main ingredient is beans. The children loved it.

I did my hair with 40′s flair and 60s style.

I created a refreshing, antioxidant-packed beverage.

I properly applied “smoky” eye makeup.

I cleaned my jewelry.

I hard boiled eggs in the oven. (I know. Mind blowing.)

I made a headband around little cowgirls hair with a braid of her hair. SWANK!

I baked healthy cookies that included fresh ginger and a banana.

I drank seventeen-ish new smoothie recipes.

I renewed my desire to be a hoarder because of all the crafty crap people make by up-cycling things. (Philosophical Crisis!)

I made five minute bread that actually took about an hour because I measured something wrong.

I transformed dried beans into something amazing and wonderful via that magical kitchen device they call a crock-pot.

I went to the grocery store and didn’t have room in my cart for all the things I wanted to use for Pinteresty ideas and recipes on top of what we actually needed.

I told a friend of mine it’s like having access to every issue of every magazine you ever loved for all time. Let me know if you are on Pinterest and I’m not following you – I’d love to! I’m sure there is something awesome you are doing that I should be trying!

Otherwise, if you need me I’ll be on Pinterest or in the kitchen.

Autumn tradition

We have a favorite pumpkin patch, and it’s become our tradition to visit it the day before (or the day of!) Halloween. We like to arrive first thing in the morning. It’s empty and clean, the morning is cool and crisp, and there are hours of fun to be had.

There is a playground AND a petting zoo!

Swings and pits…

With diggers!

A jumping pillow (this pic was on instagram, you can find me there as ‘closeenoughblog’) all to ourselves.

No lines at the zipline,

But just enough brothers to help.

The tallest slide you have ever seen,

water pump duck races,

Gourd guns, sling shots and pumpkin cannons!

A wonderful time was had by all.

What makes it *really* feel like November to you?

Instant! Gram!

That’s right. I’m joining up with all you instagram folks.

This is what farmers do on their Sunday afternoons ‘off.’ They drive around and scout their fields. (And look hot doing so.)

I really have no idea what I am doing, so please advise me. What happens next? How and why would I ‘follow’ others? Are there things I should be sure NOT to miss? Comment away, friends.

What Seven Looks Like

I can’t believe my BABY is seven. No more baby. Not a lot of little girl left; much more big girl.

The big girl chose not to have a party this year. Instead she asked for a “family party” where we go bowling together.

This is what it looks like when farmers go bowling.

She had a truly excellent time. I don’t think she even realized that she hit 16 pins in ten frames.

Another gutter ball! This is so fun, Dad!

It’s hard to bowl when even the special ball (the one you have to request because they keep it behind the counter) is 15% of your body weight. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t a great time!

Especially when you have a brand-new American Girl Doll that you’ve been dreaming of to bring along.

She made her own cake, decorated it with star-shaped sprinkles and topped it with seven pink candles.

Glowing.

Angel food for our little Angel. We are so blessed, and she is so loved.

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Back by request: It all comes out in the wash – 9th edition

1) A penny, a foreign coin of some sort.

2) A plastic key that came with some junk mail, currently the key to the clubhouse, I’m told.

3) Gifts from Nature.

4) Sighting scope from a cap gun.

5) Caps from said gun.

6) Bottle cap.

7) Twisty tie.

8) Corn kernel.

9) Collection of lego items, including Harry Potter cloak.

10) Various metal or broken pieces of something taken apart. I’m not asking what.

11) Hair tie, band aide remnant.

Anything interesting in your washing machine recently?

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Surprise Vacation, Day 5

After leaving Saint Louis, we had a beautiful drive across Missouri. Our final stop before home was Fort Scott, Kansas.

Fort Scott was a Frontier Army Fort, then a Civil War Fort where Union supplies were held and Union Soldiers were trained.

There were far more buildings and displays then I ever expected. If you are within driving distance of Fort Scott, Kansas, I would encourage you to make a trip there. We spent four hours touring the buildings and learning about so much of that time period in Kansas.

A volunteer dressed as a Frontier Army soldier from the 1840s told us all about his weapon after the small fire arms demonstration.

Another volunteer posing as a Union Soldier talks with us about the Civil War, the first ever black regiment in that war, and the government’s broken promises to the Native Americans during that time period.

The buildings were really amazing and filled with interesting items and informative displays. This may have been our favorite stop on the entire trip. This was something we were all interested in, it was not crowded, the volunteers were helpful and informative, and the children spent their energy hurrying from building to building in their eagerness to see what was next. We developed an understanding of what sorts of supplies were necessary to sustain an Army Base of that size, what sorts of punishments soldiers might suffer, how and what they were fed, how weapons were stored and why. We learned about Dragoons, a special soldier who was trained as a calvary and foot soldier. We saw how different ranks of soldiers were housed and felt transported into the past.

The kids in the bakery, consulting the map as to where they would like to head next.

Most importantly, we were experiencing it all together.

What was one of your most memorable vacations with your family as a child (or with your children)?

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